It is if you choose it to be.

FUCK" NO!

Choice... I think not. Who in their right mind would chose a live style that has one living in fear.

I never felt I had a choice. I always wanted, and desired dick. what can I say.

Do what thou wilt shall be the whole of the Law.

i certainly don't remember a little bald geek with horn-rimmed glasses, a lab coat and a clipboard rolling up on me as i got close to puberty. "hey, kid, what's it gonna be, dick, pussy or the buffet? oh, and you got all the right plumbing, right?"

i'm not saying it didn't happen. i'm just saying if it did, i don't remember it.

Love is the law, love under will.

I think the only choice in this realm is whether or not you accept what you are.
Many are born homosexual but don't choose to accept it.

I think human sexuality is both complex and complicated. There are issues of psychology, genetics, culture and God(dess) knows what else.

I am defined as “gay” because a 19th Century German defined “homosexuality” and some 20th Century Americans – within their Puritan-influenced culture which often takes ideas to extremes – decided to “liberate” me. I suspect in another time and place I would have had my wife and stableboy to enjoy or, indeed, been the stableboy.

My parents fit the Freudian stereotypes of overbearing mother and distant father. Maybe my sexuality is a consequence of them, but other gay friends seem to have very well-adjusted parents.

Maybe there is something genetic. Maybe a family group benefits from an aunt or uncle not breeding. Or maybe it is some sort of survival mechanism. I reckon there are a higher proportion of handsome gay men, than straight.

Or we gays could just be collateral damage to a very f***ed up and unnatural culture based on the “nuclear family” fragment and food adulterated with chemicals.

Whatever. I like sex and am available!

It didn't seem like a choice when I first realized it was who I was. If I had known what it would lead to I would have gladly chosen it, though! Ultimately, does it matter?? Isn't it a choice free men should have the RIGHT to make? What right do a bunch of uptight, narrow minded, fear-hounded religious fanatics have to tell me how I should feel and who I should fuck? You are simply who you ARE. You have a right to BE who you are, how ever you happened to get there. The IMPORTANT choice is will you love and honor yourself for who you are, or will you choose to let other people make you hate yourself for who you are?

There is a lot of good science out now which strongly suggests that our sexual orientation is determined before birth. Read Simon LeVay "Queer Science". It 's a masterpiece and the first of many studies which show that there are physical and physiological differences between straight and gay men. Most psychologists no longer think early childhood parenting practices influence sexual orientation. Google "gaydar" or "gayface".I have never met a gay man who said one day he decided to be gay. I have been gay since my earliest memories, although it took me thirty years to admit it to myself because of the heavy burden of society, especially religion. As mentioned above, I "chose" to engage in gay sex, just as straights "chose" to engage in straight sex. But isn't this our birthright? Because I'm gay, I cant throw or catch a ball, hate sports, dislike aggression. Because I'm gay, I'm a respected healer, outstanding creative artist, and have a deep spiriituality. This is not to say that straights don't do these things, but gays are statistically more apt to do them. We're just hard-wired that way. Being gay is a lot more than whom we chose to have sex with.