Good for you. Do not neglect to read The Five Legged Footstool, it is within 'The Serpent Power" by Arthur Avalon, if you have not studied it yet. It is one of the seminal works of tantra, and the explanations that go with it are invaluable to assessing and understanding phenomena that can accompany serious tantrik practice. I am assuming you mean tantra, as in the hindu practice. If not, Taoist Yoga, by Lu kuan yu is another good text for starting serious practice.

i think that you are lucky, druben, and should go with the flow.

if, however, you are feeling too uncomfortable, maybe you should talk to your buddy about things. surely he is aware of what is going on - non?

perhaps he has a different sense of what is going on - particularly if he is not seeing this as sex.

good luck and keep us posted!

well, just an update: I did not experience enough mutual flow with the guy I was working with. I was aroused enough by him and he by me, but he took in the energies and did not extend them out to me, so I felt like I was fueling his body electric and he was not sending energy into me. He stayed hard a long time and experienced many non-ejaculatory climaxes but I sort of was there to witness and hold him as he experienced bliss. I know these aroused states were greater being with me than being alone and I believe that he was (is) turned on by me, but I think his ideas about his own heterosexual identity kept him from letting himself go. But then he is married and all that and it would probably be messy. We have backed off the sexual stuff and am now doing weekly readings and meditations on Plotinus and the Enneads - its safely cerebral - but he still talks about erotic arousal with me, but I don't go there with him because of a very bad experience of a flirting straight guy who kept me entangled with him erotically for two years. It was not pretty picture. I have a weakness for straight men....